Why Are The Rules On Having Sex Different For Men Than Women?....I Have Heard This Discussion Before And Want To Add My Two Cents....

Today when I checked the Forum I found a question screaming at me that I have seen far more than once...It has bugged me before and it irritates me now...Maybe now more than ever since I have become vocal about it...Part of the reason for my letting it alone is that I want other members to have the chance to voice their thoughts before I jump in...I usually try to use this as a ruler on the Forum, but every once in a while I break my own rule...This time I didn't...OK, now for the problem...This man came on the Forum with his problem...He has this nice girl that he is getting very serious with...He loves her and his problem is that she has had sex with two other guys....For him this is a problem...You see he cannot accept this...It gets to him...He is constantly questioning her as to what she did and how long she did it.....Now for my problem with this fact of life.....What rule is there that says that "a guy can have all the sexual relationships before marriage and it is OK"...I mean we never question the guy about how many girls he made love to....I knew my husband had more than his share, but so what...Yet, we as women are supposed to be chaste all these years and wait for our knight in shinning armor to come along....What I have just written I have heard the male species say many times on forums...They judge, when IMO, they have no right to judge....

To me this is unfair...Not that I am promoting promiscuity, but that both sexes have the right to gain their own knowledge in life...Why do men think that so many married women have affairs?...It is for this same reason...They have not had the opportunity to screw another guys brains out and know how it feels....Yet, I have never seen it written on a Forum by a woman that she is PO because her boyfriend, lover or intended has had too many affairs for her and she is jealous...It is again this sexual thing...Where is what is right for the goose is right for the gander or how the hell this goes?....As you can now very plainly see I am now on my dam bandwagon....and this guy I don't even know caused it....

What I have just spoken about is the very same reason that I never let my husband-to-be know about the affair I had with my boss before we were married...Even though this started before I was engaged, as well as the fact that this was sexual harassment on his part, he would have blown town like someone had put a firecracker in his ass...He would not have stood for this happening to his woman...I was now a marked woman....I never had sexual intercourse, but in his eyes I might have been dirtied material...And just writing about this right now gets me fully PO all over again...This bothered me even after marriage...I had such guilt, yet I couldn't share it with him...I worried about what he might think....So, what I am saying is that the same crap of years ago still surfaces at this time in life...Now that I have spit tacks I will change and welcome my guests....I will come back and edit this later and edit some of my older blogs....Until then, take care....Caroline...

P.S. I hope not, but I may be one brick short of a full load....But, oh what fun I have in life...xox