When Should A Woman Feel Violated??????...For Many Of Us This Is True Most Of Our Life.....

Last week this question was asked on the Forum...I answered it, but not with all that I had in the back of my mind...You see when I post at the forum, I sometimes hesitate with my answers...Self doubt creeps in.....This is a new part of me that I never knew before....It is a new me..... I wonder if my feelings are their feelings?...Then the final hesitation hits me...I am questioning myself within, " dare I speak my mind to youth when I have lived and loved in a generation that they do not know?"....Saying this, I speak with reservation...Measure my words....Often delete as I wonder if the statement that I just issued should be there...In simple words, I wait for the hammer to fall....Here on my site I have my freedom...I have no strings attached that bind me....Words fly off my fingers as they appear in the book of life in my mind......I recall my yesterdays of old...The frustrations that made me set up my own site...This wonderful place that became my comfort zone and let the person within state her views on life....Now as I write this I realize that I was being smothered alive and needed to breathe...Here on my site I am able to reflect the woman within the woman...A woman that never dies with age...Instead she grows, speaks and even though she may not be heard, she lives in such inner peace and satisfaction that it is worth all the praises in the world....Many may not understand what I just wrote...But I do...This is what is important....I will be doing this blog off and on all afternoon...This is just the start....Come to think of it...I have only just begun....

From what I could gather the post that was entered on the forum, came from a young woman...She said that she would be sleeping and her boyfriend would start playing with her...At first she thought she was just dreaming and then realized that it was happening...In her state of confusion she had to get to the bottom of this...She had asked him if he had done this and he had said no...Yet she could recall his movement when she woke up...So she trapped him...Pretended she was asleep when she wasn't.....He started playing with her and fingering her and she told him she knew what he was doing...She wrote her post to find out if  this was normal.....She was disturbed about this violation of her body....My thoughts on this as she had stated it is that he is violating her...My reasons being, she is asleep...In this unconscious state she knows nothing of what is going on....To me this sounds like he is pleasuring himself with her body...Doing something that he wants to do with a woman....Kind of a sexual predator...I just plain don't like it...Each time she asked him if he was doing this he denied it...This alone is more than a red flag...It is a full stop sign and I would get rid of this loser...A man who loves you respects you...This one wanted one thing...Sex...Whether she wanted it or not...He did....So he pleasured himself with her sexual parts...

When we were younger and my husband worked shifts, I would sometimes wake up with my husband between my legs eating me....Oh God that was so good...He would be laying between my legs and licking me....Would you believe that I am moving in sexual heat as I write this...Well, I am...Believe me, I am......However, for us these were stolen moments of lust...Sex can be difficult with three kids around....So the bedroom door would then close and we would screw ourselves blind....Oh, how I smile as I write this for even though I didn't know it then "those were the days of wine and roses"...But, who I speak about is "us"...We have been madly in love from day one....If I could crawl into his skin I would...I just plain adore him....Sex to us is the best banana split that you can eat....Lord, I am such a sick woman....Like I care....

Now lets go to the woman who doesn't want sex...I don't care if she is married or partnered...It is my opinion that no woman should be made to give what she does not feel comfortable giving...Men do not realize that the two sexes are made so completely different...We have our sexual organs internally...Learning to release the want in a hot relationship is not easy...However, when we are made whole by hot foreplay, then it is another story...This is why it is so important for a man to bring a woman alive before he insists on penetration...Thus Porn comes into the picture...He is used to watching it and wants to jack off the minute he sees what she has between her legs...To me, this must be hell for a woman...Like sticking a large object inside her body with no hope of pleasure...Just plain tolerating and trying to grin and bear it....... 

I wonder if we women realize that later in life that a man cannot be made to have sex...Here we will deal with impotency....Yet I have heard the term "She has to do it....It is part of the marriage vow" uttered more than a few times....IMO, she doesn't have to do it unless she wants to...It is up to him to bring her alive....His words and deeds must make her want to be filled....I can't imagine the misery I would feel if I didn't want the penetration of my husband and the hot love making that goes along with it....I love it...I can't get enough...This is true because he has made me love it...He has taught me the art of sexual love and brought me along, inch by inch, (no pun intended) and had the patience of a saint....He alone helped me emerge from a child woman into a hot woman who knows and loves this sexual act of love for all its glory....To me there is nothing more erotic that the mating dance of love....This beautiful act of coming together of two souls....More than anything I believe that just maybe, that's why I was born........

I guess this post has gotten pretty long....So as you can see I do things here that I don't do on a forum...There I am reserved...I wish I could again let it all hang out and give them all of me...Maybe in time I will find it....You see this is another problem of age...You can get just plain get scared shit-less....That's the way to show your class girl.......Take care, Caroline